The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex is a book written by Umm Muladhat, which is believed to be her alias. This is a first-of-its-kind sex guide written specifically for Muslim women after anecdotal evidence suggested that many of them have little or no knowledge about how to enjoy sex. The book is available for order on Amazon as of last week. On the book's Amazon page, Muladhat says the origin of the book can be traced to a conversation she had some years ago with a newly-married Muslim friend of hers. Muladhat said she could tell something was wrong, because her friend did not look happy, despite having been joyous at the time of her engagement and wedding.
When the author cajoled her friend, she shyly admitted the truth. Her sex life was horrible. In fact, it was fast becoming non-existent, Muladhat recalled. She said that while many Muslim women understand the mechanics of sex and its anatomy, they "didn't know sex". Muladhat found that her friend knew the mechanics of inserting penis into vagina, reaching climax and then withdrawing. But she did not know how to make her husband yearn for her in bed. She did not know what he liked. She did not even know what she liked! They had begun eagerly but after a few weeks, realized that neither of them was truly enjoying having sex with each other. Muladhat, who had been married for a few years at the time of this conversation with her friend, says she gave her friend as much sex advice as she could, based on her own experience and based on what she had read from various sources. A month later, she saw her friend again and this time she had a gigantic smile on her face. Her friend requested her to write this down and share it with other Muslim girls, because nobody teaches them how to enjoy sex and they are thrown into marriage and they only know the fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence) and the biology.
Muladhat did just that. She wrote everything down on a Word document and mailed it to her friend, who then shared it with other newly-married friends. Before long, word trickled back to Muladhat that people were asking her to write a book on the subject and this is the origin of Muladhat’s recently released book. Going by the chapters list on Amazon, the book is indeed detailed. It includes chapters on, among other things, 'Sexual Positions', 'Shower Sex', 'What to say during sex' and even 'BDSM', which stands for 'Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism'. Muladhat explained why she chose to remain anonymous. It was partly for fear of a backlash but also because she did not want to be known in her tight-knit community as the "sex book aunty". She also said she has received encouraging feedback as well as a significant number of demeaning and disgusting messages.